Maybe you just need to say, "Oh, well."
This was the advice I received before a reiki session, when I was talking about a situation in my life that bothered me, yet I couldn't necessarily change.
Now, I've heard essentially the same advice before, but it seemed harder. It sounded something like this, "If you can't change the situation, you need to change the way you think about it."
Yeah, I get that too. Yet, stated this way made me feel like a defiant teenager. Me change the way I think? That feels like way too much work. Changing my thinking feels like totally giving in. It means changing for something that I don't necessarily believe in. Which also makes me feel like a defiant teenager.
However, when my wonderful friend and reiki guru told me to simply look at the situation as an, "Oh, well," it seemed doable.
I liked it because I could add stuff to the beginning or end of the phrase (either aloud or in my head… yes, I'm trying to become enlightened, but I'm still human) to suit how I felt. Yet the phrase would still serve the intended purpose… that being, simply... "Oh, well. This isn't that important, and really not going to kill me… so I will ease up and just maybe accept it." Or, "Yes, this certainly sucks… but, oh, well. It's not the end of the world."
"Oh, well" says I don't like this, but I'm not letting it destroy my inner peace. "Oh, well" acknowledges that life doesn't always go exactly as we think it should, and newsflash, that's okay. Again, we can still be happy and move about the cabin.
"Oh, well" works for big life issues and small everyday annoyances, too. Next time something happens that makes your blood boil, try inserting a gentle (or sassy, I get that this is a process), "Oh, well." You might just feel a little more zen.
I tried that tonight and… not sure if it's the reiki effects or the phrasing, but I feel better. Give it a shot… the worst that could happen is that it doesn't make you feel any better. And, if that's the case? Oh, well.